One step forward, two steps back
While escalating, take one step forward (metaphorically). At any sign of hesitation or defiance, take two steps back. Then step forward once again. For example, if you take her hand, and you sense any hesitation, throw her hand away. Later when you take it again, she will comply more readily. The principle is that the "two steps back" creates more discomfort than the "one step forward." Thus, the target becomes more likely to comply with future forward steps.
You be the one to create the tension, and you be the one to push it away
"Baby, we’ve got to slow this down.."
Some people think that it’s the man’s job to escalate, and the woman’s job is to resist. Instead, think of it as if it is the man’s job to do both. If you are constantly thing to get more kino, like getting yards on a football field, it telegraphs far too much interest and deprives her of the hot/cold, push/pull energy that she finds so compelling.
When you pull in close to a girl, there’s this tension in the air. At some point, if she feels too much discomfort, she will pull away. This isn’t what you want — you don’t want to condition her into a behavior of constantly pulling away from you. Rather, you want her conditioned to chase after you.
So, once that tension has been created, it’s now time to push her away. This might be physically ("get off me, geez") or emotionally, such as using a backturn, false disqualifier or some other IOD. You might frame it as though you are the prize and you’re not going to let her get anywhere with you tonight ‘cause you have work tomorrow.
One effect of this is that it spikes attraction when you push her away. She will respond more playfully to you now. Another effect is that comfort is created. She doesn’t feel like you’re trying to get something if you’re constantly pushing her away. This allows her to feel safe while having fun with you. She can allow the emotional stimulation to escalate instead of having to shut it off in self-defense. And the push makes it that much more stimulating for her when you do pull her back in.
For this reason, toss her hand away after thumb-wrestling or palm-reading. Devise a kino routine where you embrace her for a few seconds of role-playing, and then push her away. Mix signals.. .draw near to her saying that it would never work out between you, but stroke your finger down her cheek at the same time. Then turn away. Use body rocking m conjunction with IOIs, IODs, false-disqualifiers, role-playing, stones, and so on.
Someone could easily spend weeks or months playing with these ideas in the field. There is so much to explore.